Now this is not about my first night out ever, or even since having Hudson, this is about my first night out Without Hudson.
I planed to go out two weeks in advance. I spoke to Dev to see how he felt about being left alone with Hudson and his breast feeding needs, of course he said it was fine. (To tell you the truth I think I was more nervous than he was) Once I had the ok I started to express milk which is no fun but that’s for another Blog.
Each day I had Dev feed Hudson to get him use to both the bottle and looking up to see him and not me. Then the elusive night came round all too soon and I felt more nervous than ever. My stomach was churning and I think I told Dev the same instructions more than 10 times. I was only going to the cinema so I would only be gone for 3 hours tops but it was the what if‘s running through my mind…
Despite feeling like I was forgetting something and checking my phone several times throughout the film I enjoyed myself and don‘t now what all the nerves were about. I was still very pleased to see Hudson when I got home, oh and a stressed out Dev of course. :) XxX
Tuesday, 30 August 2011
Monday, 29 August 2011
My guilty pleasure…
Wait if I tell you can’t tell anyone ok..
Ok I love watching the kids channels on TV like Disney, Nickelodeon and Pop Girl. I got in to the habit while babysitting a lot when I was younger but still even now, if I want some easy watching then I switch on the kids channels!
I like the fact they are good, clean, wholesome programs. I get sick of the same old swearing, nudity/sex and gruesome violence that is in a growing amount of the so called grown up programs. Don’t get me wrong I don’t always watch just U’s and P.G’s but I still prefer to watch clean programs I just enjoy them more. XxX
Saturday, 27 August 2011
To feed or not to feed ....
I know there are lots of different opinions about breast feeding over bottle feeding and I am not going to say what is right and what is wrong because its whatever is best for the individual.
I breast feed my son and he is now 4 months old. even though he has two teeth I plan to continue feeding him myself till he is one as I feel it’s the best thing for me to do and I get a great sense of pride knowing he is putting on weight and seems healthy (so far). I have to be honest with you before I got pregnant the idea of breast feeding really freaked me out and I was sure I did not want to go there, but during my pregnancy my husband and I had a discussion where he asked me if I would try and feed our baby just once and if I really didn’t feel comfortable then I could just stop, and trying once seemed reasonable to me.
The closer I got to my due date and the more I spoke to other mothers the more I wanted to feed our baby myself and the more confident I felt about my decision. I am not going to lie breast feeding is not always easy, the modesty issue has always been a big concern of mine using blankets that are both thick enough so they can’t be seen through and thin enough so Hudson can still breath and stay cool. There is also the problem of getting a blanket big enough to cover you properly even when the baby is kicking and messing about by coming on and off every time they hear a noise, “yes I’m talking about you Hudson you nosey boy” Now I chose to take the bests parts from all the blankets on the market and make my own wonder-blanket, but there is help out there for everyone in the form of websites like peekabooboo.co.uk and babybubu.co.uk who make feeding covers that can make breast feeding easier and less stressful if you wish to feed yourself.
There have been times when I have been brought to tears while Hudson was feeding. For me the pains lasted up until he was almost three months old and at some times it was unbearable. On one occasion when Hudson was only 3 days old, my husband and I decided to go shopping for some boys clothes as we had not found out what we were having in advance. Hudson needed feeding and I felt nervous as this was my first time feeding out in public. After going to one feeding room and it being engaged for 10 min I decided to try another as Hudson was getting cranky. The Tesco feeding and changing room was free so my husband and I went in with Hudson. If you have children you will know that it can take along time to feed them and during my time in there there were about 6 different knocks on the door and to all we gave the same response that we were feeding and would be a while, only 1 knock was met with a verbal response of “sorry I didn’t realise there was someone in there” this I think was a member of staff that had come after Dev (my husband) over heard some women complaining that “they’ve been in there for 10 minuets”
As frustrating as several people knocking while you feed your child is, it was not this that brought me to tears. Once I had finished feeding and before I had put myself together again the door was unlocked from the outside and two security guards burst in through the door to see me sat all exposed. Dev also in shock kicked the door shut immediately, but when the security guards persisted to push it open again Dev slammed it and locked it.
I felt humiliated. I still don’t like using the public feeding rooms as a result, the idea makes me panic. The explanation we got when we went to make a formal complaint was that they thought someone had passed out as they could not hear any response when they knocked despite our shouting louder in frustration with each knock, not to mention the first member of staff seemed to hear us fine. But I guess they didn’t want to admit there outrageous mistake.
All in all with my home made blanket I have become more confident when it comes to feeding in public so I rarely need to use the feeding rooms other than for a speedy nappy change. If I do chose to use one I will not stand for impatient or inconsiderate people and neither should you. I don’t beat down doors just to suppress my child’s whimpers… Just remember they are only wanting the room for the same reasons you do and in all respect and fairness they are no more important than you are. XxX
I breast feed my son and he is now 4 months old. even though he has two teeth I plan to continue feeding him myself till he is one as I feel it’s the best thing for me to do and I get a great sense of pride knowing he is putting on weight and seems healthy (so far). I have to be honest with you before I got pregnant the idea of breast feeding really freaked me out and I was sure I did not want to go there, but during my pregnancy my husband and I had a discussion where he asked me if I would try and feed our baby just once and if I really didn’t feel comfortable then I could just stop, and trying once seemed reasonable to me.
The closer I got to my due date and the more I spoke to other mothers the more I wanted to feed our baby myself and the more confident I felt about my decision. I am not going to lie breast feeding is not always easy, the modesty issue has always been a big concern of mine using blankets that are both thick enough so they can’t be seen through and thin enough so Hudson can still breath and stay cool. There is also the problem of getting a blanket big enough to cover you properly even when the baby is kicking and messing about by coming on and off every time they hear a noise, “yes I’m talking about you Hudson you nosey boy” Now I chose to take the bests parts from all the blankets on the market and make my own wonder-blanket, but there is help out there for everyone in the form of websites like peekabooboo.co.uk and babybubu.co.uk who make feeding covers that can make breast feeding easier and less stressful if you wish to feed yourself.
There have been times when I have been brought to tears while Hudson was feeding. For me the pains lasted up until he was almost three months old and at some times it was unbearable. On one occasion when Hudson was only 3 days old, my husband and I decided to go shopping for some boys clothes as we had not found out what we were having in advance. Hudson needed feeding and I felt nervous as this was my first time feeding out in public. After going to one feeding room and it being engaged for 10 min I decided to try another as Hudson was getting cranky. The Tesco feeding and changing room was free so my husband and I went in with Hudson. If you have children you will know that it can take along time to feed them and during my time in there there were about 6 different knocks on the door and to all we gave the same response that we were feeding and would be a while, only 1 knock was met with a verbal response of “sorry I didn’t realise there was someone in there” this I think was a member of staff that had come after Dev (my husband) over heard some women complaining that “they’ve been in there for 10 minuets”
As frustrating as several people knocking while you feed your child is, it was not this that brought me to tears. Once I had finished feeding and before I had put myself together again the door was unlocked from the outside and two security guards burst in through the door to see me sat all exposed. Dev also in shock kicked the door shut immediately, but when the security guards persisted to push it open again Dev slammed it and locked it.
I felt humiliated. I still don’t like using the public feeding rooms as a result, the idea makes me panic. The explanation we got when we went to make a formal complaint was that they thought someone had passed out as they could not hear any response when they knocked despite our shouting louder in frustration with each knock, not to mention the first member of staff seemed to hear us fine. But I guess they didn’t want to admit there outrageous mistake.
All in all with my home made blanket I have become more confident when it comes to feeding in public so I rarely need to use the feeding rooms other than for a speedy nappy change. If I do chose to use one I will not stand for impatient or inconsiderate people and neither should you. I don’t beat down doors just to suppress my child’s whimpers… Just remember they are only wanting the room for the same reasons you do and in all respect and fairness they are no more important than you are. XxX
Friday, 26 August 2011
One step forward and two steps back?
Jubilee birth centre has been ahead in the game when it comes to maternity hospitals in my opinion. They understood the term less is more as they took things to a more natural practise, it not just the rooms them selves that looked and felt moor homely but the staff are all very welcoming. The attention is not merely focused on the women in labour and getting the baby out so the next patient can start the process but it is on the partner and those there to support them. For my husband the horrible feeling that I was in pain and he could not stop it was eased by the midwifes comforting words of reassurance that by just being there and holding my hand was helping. At on point did I feel rushed and an inconvenience. I just have to wonder it if the hustle and bustle of a larger hospital and clinical surroundings is what I would have to look forward to with my eventual second child.
If you have been watching the news you will have seen that the jubilee birth centre has now been closed due to lack of funding which is a great shame to say the least. There are a lot of opinions floating around as to weather it is a good or bad thing. Some have said that the money could be better spent elsewhere and one person said that if women want to have a luxury birth then they should pay to go privet, that person was a man! I under stand that funds are low but I have never heard of any fund raising events for castle hill other wise I would of gone and supported them because I believe it to be a wonderful hospital as I am sure many would agree. I in no way want to belittle the amazing work that the midwives at hull royal do especially under the pressure of under staffing but by talking to several friends, colleges and other parents the overall results seems to show that those that gave birth at jubilee birth centre had a much more present experience than those who gave birth at hull royal. Now this result may be because there are more births at hull royal and you have to be in perfect health to go to jubilee but still there are lots of women who were unable to give birth at jubilee that still opt to have there after care there. for me the most important thing was to fell calm and for the midwife to be reassuring and supporting but not controlling. I heard a lot of stories where the midwifes have been barking commands at the women in labour and even shouting at them to be quiet, now I was not a screamer my self and I don’t think some of the women need to carry on the way that they do on “One Born Every Minute” but there is a great deal of pain evolved in giving birth so telling them to be quiet is a bit unfair. The midwife I had was lovely she sat back and observer but she let me go through it all at my pace and in my way I pushed when I needed to push and I felt calm and cared for. Perhaps now there are more midwifery staff at hull royal it will take some of the pressure off and they can give more attention to each woman as well as giving attention to the partner which in the past has been lacking. There was a comment made about hull royal being factory births, well I can only hope that this is a thing of the past as my eventual second child will inevitably be born at hull royal infirmary. XxX
If you have been watching the news you will have seen that the jubilee birth centre has now been closed due to lack of funding which is a great shame to say the least. There are a lot of opinions floating around as to weather it is a good or bad thing. Some have said that the money could be better spent elsewhere and one person said that if women want to have a luxury birth then they should pay to go privet, that person was a man! I under stand that funds are low but I have never heard of any fund raising events for castle hill other wise I would of gone and supported them because I believe it to be a wonderful hospital as I am sure many would agree. I in no way want to belittle the amazing work that the midwives at hull royal do especially under the pressure of under staffing but by talking to several friends, colleges and other parents the overall results seems to show that those that gave birth at jubilee birth centre had a much more present experience than those who gave birth at hull royal. Now this result may be because there are more births at hull royal and you have to be in perfect health to go to jubilee but still there are lots of women who were unable to give birth at jubilee that still opt to have there after care there. for me the most important thing was to fell calm and for the midwife to be reassuring and supporting but not controlling. I heard a lot of stories where the midwifes have been barking commands at the women in labour and even shouting at them to be quiet, now I was not a screamer my self and I don’t think some of the women need to carry on the way that they do on “One Born Every Minute” but there is a great deal of pain evolved in giving birth so telling them to be quiet is a bit unfair. The midwife I had was lovely she sat back and observer but she let me go through it all at my pace and in my way I pushed when I needed to push and I felt calm and cared for. Perhaps now there are more midwifery staff at hull royal it will take some of the pressure off and they can give more attention to each woman as well as giving attention to the partner which in the past has been lacking. There was a comment made about hull royal being factory births, well I can only hope that this is a thing of the past as my eventual second child will inevitably be born at hull royal infirmary. XxX
Thursday, 18 August 2011
You don't crap on your own back yard!
There has been a lot on the new about the riots and I think that every one has something to say.
For a start there is never an excuse for the behaviour and complete disregard for others full stop. Although there is no excuse there has been a fair few made one of which was that there is no where for young people to go these days and there are not enough youth programs to stop them getting in to trouble. I do not disagree that better youth programs would be beneficial to keep them from just hanging around the street but the mischief you expect them to get on to is heckling passers by playing knock knock run or at worst tea peaing someone’s house non of which I approve of and none of which would go unpunished if it was my child involved but all of which may be given the excuse that they had nothing to do and nowhere to go.
The term mindless violence has been given to the acts of the rioters but for me that is letting them off with not understanding what chaos and destruction they were doing. They knew full well what they were doing, the lives and livelihoods they were destroying and they simply did not care. They did not care if there were men, women, children or elderly in those building they were burning. They did not care that they were stealing from local businesses who’s owners would now struggle to pay there bills and feed their family’s. they did not care fear and upset they left the community with, the emotional scarring that may take a life time to heal. They did not care that this was their home as well, they obviously have not heard the term “you don’t crap in your own back yard. I think a better term should be careless violence for the acts of these despicable gang of youths.
You may have also read about the young woman who was to be in the 2012 Olympics. Chelsea Ives was arrested after being turned in by her mother for being involved in the riots. I can not understand why a girl with such promise would lower herself to such a despicable standard and through her feature away. I do not know from what I have read weather she will still be taking part in the 2012 events but I hope she is denied the honour as she no longer deserves it.
On a happier note there were more people there the next morning to clean up the mess than there were that did there very best to destroy a community, which just shows that you can knock people down but they will get back up again. The lives of those effected by the rioters will with time and the support of the united community get back to normal but the lives of the rioters may be ruined forever and they have only got themselves to blame.
XxX
For a start there is never an excuse for the behaviour and complete disregard for others full stop. Although there is no excuse there has been a fair few made one of which was that there is no where for young people to go these days and there are not enough youth programs to stop them getting in to trouble. I do not disagree that better youth programs would be beneficial to keep them from just hanging around the street but the mischief you expect them to get on to is heckling passers by playing knock knock run or at worst tea peaing someone’s house non of which I approve of and none of which would go unpunished if it was my child involved but all of which may be given the excuse that they had nothing to do and nowhere to go.
The term mindless violence has been given to the acts of the rioters but for me that is letting them off with not understanding what chaos and destruction they were doing. They knew full well what they were doing, the lives and livelihoods they were destroying and they simply did not care. They did not care if there were men, women, children or elderly in those building they were burning. They did not care that they were stealing from local businesses who’s owners would now struggle to pay there bills and feed their family’s. they did not care fear and upset they left the community with, the emotional scarring that may take a life time to heal. They did not care that this was their home as well, they obviously have not heard the term “you don’t crap in your own back yard. I think a better term should be careless violence for the acts of these despicable gang of youths.
You may have also read about the young woman who was to be in the 2012 Olympics. Chelsea Ives was arrested after being turned in by her mother for being involved in the riots. I can not understand why a girl with such promise would lower herself to such a despicable standard and through her feature away. I do not know from what I have read weather she will still be taking part in the 2012 events but I hope she is denied the honour as she no longer deserves it.
On a happier note there were more people there the next morning to clean up the mess than there were that did there very best to destroy a community, which just shows that you can knock people down but they will get back up again. The lives of those effected by the rioters will with time and the support of the united community get back to normal but the lives of the rioters may be ruined forever and they have only got themselves to blame.
XxX
Monday, 15 August 2011
All about me...
Hi this is my first blog.
I thought I would start one to have a place to say things that are on my mind. It may not be deep or insightful but still a thought only becomes an opinion when it’s put out there for other people to hear or read. I don’t want to offend anyone; these are just my thoughts and feelings.
I guess I will start by saying a bit about my self. My name is Stacey Turner sort and simple, my Dad said I don’t have a middle name because “there are so many forms to fill out these days why make it more complicated by adding extra names in to the mix” I think he just couldn’t think of another name. :D
I got married 1st May 2010 to Devin Edward Carter Turner, his parents clearly don't share my dads opinion lol. I also have 1 son who was born 27th April 2011 called Hudson Wayne Turner, as you can see I don’t agree with my dad about the name thing ether, I happen to like middle names.
I guess I will start by saying a bit about my self. My name is Stacey Turner sort and simple, my Dad said I don’t have a middle name because “there are so many forms to fill out these days why make it more complicated by adding extra names in to the mix” I think he just couldn’t think of another name. :D
I got married 1st May 2010 to Devin Edward Carter Turner, his parents clearly don't share my dads opinion lol. I also have 1 son who was born 27th April 2011 called Hudson Wayne Turner, as you can see I don’t agree with my dad about the name thing ether, I happen to like middle names.
I am one of 6 children and I am number 4 in my family, sadly I lost one of my older brothers just over a year ago on the morning of my wedding (its a long story which I will cover in my blog soon I am sure) so I guess now that makes me number 3. My mum and dad are divorced, my mum lives near me but my dad lives with his girlfriend in Ireland.
You will have to forgive me for any spelling or grammar mistakes, just because I can’t spell it doesn’t mean I can’t share it. :)
This is all for now but I guess you will learn more about me as my blog goes on. XxX
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